Dr. Valerie Allen discusses below our ponderings about where we are in life, how we got there, and where we want to be, there are no right or wrong answers. There are understanding and insight. It is a journey with musings about life’s big questions. It is a place to begin a search and rescue mission for our true selves.
We can take the opportunity to assess our thoughts, feelings, and actions. It is not a place to pass judgment or criticize. This is a place of self-discovery, to leave confusion behind and find harmony in our life.
by Dr. Valerie Allen
Self-Report: There are times when we’re not sure where we are. We wonder if we’re losing ground as we journey through life. We assess ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. We look at the status of our finances, career, and relationships. Is one area out of balance? Are we consumed in one area to the exclusion of others? Are we out of sync with ourselves?
When we are willing to look deeply into our inner self, gain understanding of our past, and proactively move forward, we will gain insight and be open to the challenge of a better life. We will create the life we want and deserve.
Life’s Big Questions: Take a few minutes to ponder these questions. Allow your thoughts to go unchecked and make no judgments.
- Where am I now?
- How did I get here?
- Is this where I want to be?
- What do I want?
- Where do I go from here?
- How do I get to where I want to be?
- How soon will I begin to move forward?
Discovery: There is no need to fret about the answers to these questions. You are about to begin a journey of discovery. As you find answers, you will also create some new questions. You can sit back and assess, evaluate, and analyze your life in the privacy and comfort of your inner thoughts. You can discover the good and loving person you are despite the upheavals you have experienced in life. You can take charge and be in control of whom you are and where you want to be. You can take yourself there!
Empowerment: To empower is to give yourself authority, to allow, to permit, to enable yourself to take charge of your life. Emotional pain forces us to look at where we are, wonder how we got there, ponder where we want to be, and make plans to change. When emotionally distressed and dissatisfied, we begin to explore our feelings about life and relationships. This reflection is for those who want to enhance the quality of life, develop their potential, and find inner peace.
You can have a better, more fulfilling life. You may feel your needs are not being met and your goals haven’t been reached. You may be filled with fear and self-doubt. You may feel time is running out. You may vacillate between quiet frustration to overflowing rage. Something has caused a feeling of disequilibrium; you are not comfortable within yourself. These stirrings urge you to move on in life, look deeper, quest for more, find satisfaction, grow, and change. You can move from confusion to harmony. ~ ~ ~This is an edited excerpt from a book by Dr. Valerie Allen, Beyond the Inkblots: Confusion to Harmony.
Dr. Valerie Allen is a licensed school psychologist and board certified rehabilitation counselor and case manager. She has taught students from elementary school through graduate studies in the fields of education and mental health.
She is a popular author of children’s books, short stories, fiction, and non-fiction. Amazon.com/author/valerieallen https://www.amazon.com/Valerie-Allen/e/B004O9QAUW/ref=dp_byline_cont_ebooks_1